My mom also passed away 365 days ago. I woke the next morning to the news - it was sudden, without warning. My heart goes out to you on this anniversary. Mourning someone so integral to one’s life has made this one an incredibly difficult year.
Suzanne, I am sending you so much love this week! My heart goes out to you, too. This has been an incredibly difficult year. My mom got a diagnosis with a short timeline, and she died three weeks later. She and I made the most of those three weeks and it allowed us to be so honest, open and real with each other. Towards the end she even said to me, "Well honey, I don't think there is anything left to say. We've said it all." It makes me laugh now, because in the last yer I have thought of SO many things I would give anything to be able to tell her. I've thought a lot about how having a three-week preparation window (though it was still shorter than we expected) helped inform my grief journey, and how different it would be if she had died suddenly. I really appreciate hearing your thoughts and thank you so much for reading. I will be thinking of you this season.
Thank you so much for sharing this with me—and I’m so sorry for your loss. What you described is both heartbreaking and incredibly tender. Having that time to be honest and fully present is a gift, even though it doesn’t lessen the ache that comes later.
I really resonate with what you said about thinking of all the things you’d still want to tell her. That part doesn’t seem to end, no matter how much was said. I appreciate you holding space for the difference between an anticipated goodbye and a sudden one—it means a lot to feel that nuance seen.
I’m thinking of you too, especially in this season. 💙
Just beautiful, Anné. It’s hard to believe it’s only been a year, mostly because you write about it with such wisdom and strength. Your courage in sharing this makes me feel less scared about death too. Carrying the spirit of your mother in her purest form is a beautiful thing!!! We are all so lucky for your words and beautiful framing of grief and loss. I can’t wait for more in 2026! ❤️❤️❤️ Sending you lots of love.
Oh Lacey! I can't tell you how much this means to me. Thank you for sharing! I was never comfortable with death like this before (honestly, it was something I always envied about my mom—her fearlessness about it!), but after spending this last year really learning about death, my own faith, and just listening to the deep truths that exist in my heart, I now feel totally differently about it and I genuinely don't fear it. It just feels like it will be the next phase in what I truly believe is an infinite journey of the soul, and I know we are all connected across every plane. Thank you, thank you for reading and loving my words. You mean everything to me!! Sending you so much love.
Thank you so much for reading, Aaron! I know you met my mom at our wedding nearly 12 years ago, but by reading this post I feel like you get to spend time with her all over again. I am honored to celebrate her beautiful life on the anniversary of her death, and it means so much to me that others want to read about her, too!
Kiesy, this is so beautiful. “The dead are doing just fine” among other poignant lines makes me smile and will stay with me. Thank you for sharing— looking forward to reading much more from you! ❤️
Kumi!! Thank you so much! I can't tell you how much I love hearing which lines jump out to you. It's funny, "The dead are doing just fine" is totally something I could imagine my mom saying—I can hear her voice in my head, exactly as she'd say it. I love that that one stuck out to you! Thank you for the encouragement and I look forward to sharing more in the new year!
My mom also passed away 365 days ago. I woke the next morning to the news - it was sudden, without warning. My heart goes out to you on this anniversary. Mourning someone so integral to one’s life has made this one an incredibly difficult year.
Suzanne, I am sending you so much love this week! My heart goes out to you, too. This has been an incredibly difficult year. My mom got a diagnosis with a short timeline, and she died three weeks later. She and I made the most of those three weeks and it allowed us to be so honest, open and real with each other. Towards the end she even said to me, "Well honey, I don't think there is anything left to say. We've said it all." It makes me laugh now, because in the last yer I have thought of SO many things I would give anything to be able to tell her. I've thought a lot about how having a three-week preparation window (though it was still shorter than we expected) helped inform my grief journey, and how different it would be if she had died suddenly. I really appreciate hearing your thoughts and thank you so much for reading. I will be thinking of you this season.
Thank you so much for sharing this with me—and I’m so sorry for your loss. What you described is both heartbreaking and incredibly tender. Having that time to be honest and fully present is a gift, even though it doesn’t lessen the ache that comes later.
I really resonate with what you said about thinking of all the things you’d still want to tell her. That part doesn’t seem to end, no matter how much was said. I appreciate you holding space for the difference between an anticipated goodbye and a sudden one—it means a lot to feel that nuance seen.
I’m thinking of you too, especially in this season. 💙
Just beautiful, Anné. It’s hard to believe it’s only been a year, mostly because you write about it with such wisdom and strength. Your courage in sharing this makes me feel less scared about death too. Carrying the spirit of your mother in her purest form is a beautiful thing!!! We are all so lucky for your words and beautiful framing of grief and loss. I can’t wait for more in 2026! ❤️❤️❤️ Sending you lots of love.
Oh Lacey! I can't tell you how much this means to me. Thank you for sharing! I was never comfortable with death like this before (honestly, it was something I always envied about my mom—her fearlessness about it!), but after spending this last year really learning about death, my own faith, and just listening to the deep truths that exist in my heart, I now feel totally differently about it and I genuinely don't fear it. It just feels like it will be the next phase in what I truly believe is an infinite journey of the soul, and I know we are all connected across every plane. Thank you, thank you for reading and loving my words. You mean everything to me!! Sending you so much love.
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So beautiful, as always, Anné! Thank you for sharing ❤️
Thank you so much for reading, Aaron! I know you met my mom at our wedding nearly 12 years ago, but by reading this post I feel like you get to spend time with her all over again. I am honored to celebrate her beautiful life on the anniversary of her death, and it means so much to me that others want to read about her, too!
Kiesy, this is so beautiful. “The dead are doing just fine” among other poignant lines makes me smile and will stay with me. Thank you for sharing— looking forward to reading much more from you! ❤️
Kumi!! Thank you so much! I can't tell you how much I love hearing which lines jump out to you. It's funny, "The dead are doing just fine" is totally something I could imagine my mom saying—I can hear her voice in my head, exactly as she'd say it. I love that that one stuck out to you! Thank you for the encouragement and I look forward to sharing more in the new year!